Week 10

This week in class we learned about communication Often times couples say that they don't communicate well with each other, that is because they aren't actually communicating at all! There are many means of communication there are words, tone and non-verbal communication. Most of the time 14% of communication is words, 35% is tone and over 50% is non-verbal. My professor said that they most effective way to communicate is to communicate not be to be understood but communicate so you will not be misunderstood. Some other ideas that class mates gave on how to communicate effectively was to not beat around the bush, to validate what the other person is saying, listen, use I feel statements, communicate love and focus-don't bring up the past!

Week 9

This week we learned about how you deal with stress in the family. My professor showed us a diagram of how we think about an experiences. It starts with the Actual event, Both resources, Cognition all equals to  the total experience. What I really liked about this week was when we talked about parents losing a child and the hardship that that event brings. It just reminded me of how hard the pioneers had it. The pioneers had many children die on the trail and they had to bury them by the road and just keep going. I think that we can look to the pioneers and see their strength and how they over came their hardships.

Week 6

So I somehow missed a week of a blog post don't know how that happened but here is a trip back in time! That week we had learned about the transition into marriage. I really liked this quote my Elder Russell M. Nelson-"Meanwhile, mortal misunderstandings can make mischief in marriage. In fact, each marriage starts with two built-in handicaps. It involves two imperfect people. Happiness can come to them only through their earnest effort. Just as harmony comes from an orchestra only when its members make a concentrated effort, so harmony in marriage also requires a concerted effort. That effort will succeed in each partner will minimize personal demands and maximize actions of loving selflessness."    When you get married you have to blend two life's together and that can be difficult through communication and compromise you can overcome those difficulties. 

Week 8

This week in class we talked about the importance of sexual intimacy in a marriage. I think sex between a man and a women is very important once they have taken the vow of marriage. I think that sexual intimacy is a way for a couple to bond. There are many challenges that come with sexual intimacy but it is when you work through those problems that you have a strong couple. Through sexual intimacy needs of the female and male can be meet, both partners can learn to focus on each other instead of themselves, is a way to progress spiritually, build self control and is a leap of faith. All these things are Christ like attributes and that is what we are striving for in this life.

Week 7

This week in class we learned about the importance of proper dating and how that can affect your marriage down the road. First off dating is a variety of activities with a variety of people, courtship is when you are paired off with someone, and just seeing that one person. We also talked in class about attachment, it is important that you know them the most, trust them less then you know them, rely less than you trust, commit less than you rely and touch less then you commit. If you raise the touch notch higher then know, trust, rely and commit it usually raises them all, thus making you maybe feel something for someone, that really isn't there.